- Produces significant delays in developmental milestones, which effects social, interpersonal and literacy capacity.
- Damages a child's self regulation and attention skills.
- Increase of physical, psychological and behavioral disorders.
- Difficulty in determining what is real and what is fantasy.
- Heightened state of stress.
- Overstimulation but less personal connection.
According to recent data, 90% of young men age 18 have been exposed to pornography-much of which is hard-core (meaning it often involves violence and overtly explicit imagery). Of the 90%, the average age these young men were sexualized by pornography was between 8-11 years old. Similarly, 60% of young women by the age of 18 have been exposed to porn as well. Almost 80% of this exposure, which isn’t always voluntary, is happening in the perceived safety of their homes.
71% of teens keep their online habits from their parents and 90% of the 8 to 16 year olds who have viewed online porn did so while doing homework.
Here’s an interesting correlation, 60% of families who give their children smartphones, do so between the ages of 10 and 11. (20% give their children phones between the ages of 8 and 9.) This is in fact the same age that the average child in our nation is exposed both voluntarily and involuntarily to explicit material.
If you are wondering what potential impact this can have upon a child, buckle your seat belt. Though exposure to explicit material affects each individual differently, the overall damage it can cause is sobering to say the least. The truth is that ongoing exposure can lead to sexual addiction, unplanned pregnancies and puts children in a higher risk of being victims of sexual violence. It molds and shapes their values and attitudes towards themselves how they view others around them. This can often lead to a distorted perception of reality, a devaluation towards human life in general, as well as trivializing violent behavior.
Simply put, it damages a child’s development, and unless it is dealt with properly and carefully, these children will take these destructive patterns, perceptions and behaviors into their future.
Covenant Eyes, internetsafety101.org/pornographystatistics, growing wireless.com
Get informed and protect your kids.
Find out all you can about this issue. Netnanny.com, Qustodio.com, Kaspersky.com, accountable2you.com, covenanteyes.com, meetcircle.com, endsexualexploitation.org, internetsafety101.org, unglue.com, life360.com, commonsensemedia.com and internet safety.com are good places to start.
If you really want to protect your kids, you need to lovingly talk to them regarding the dangers that exist and help them see that they are just ONE CLICK AWAY from something that could be damaging if they are not careful.
There are a number of great filter/accountability programs you should consider putting on all your electronic devices. In fact…it’s a must!
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Another part of this is being mindful not to deflect shame onto your children in the communication process. If there has been exposure in the past or if something happens in the future, you want them to feel comfortable coming to you first so you can help process them through it. Isolation and shame are the factors that keep many children (and adults for that matter) in this deadly web.
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American Academy of Pediatrics: Healthychildren.org